Achieving Enlightenment the Otaku Way

Osu!  Greetings, shokun!  This is Cross-shishou presenting you with another set of Fujinsei Kempo lessons.  In our previous lesson, I gave you a glimpse of the dark side of the anime fandom in “10 Signs That Anime is Ruining Your Life”.  When consumed irresponsibly, anime can and will ruin your lives.   Today’s lesson, we’ll be focusing on how to be not only a responsible anime/manga fan but also a happy one, which is extremely important in achieving enlightenment the Otaku Way.  So are you ready?  Here we go.  Osu!

Do’s & Don’t’s on How to Be a Happy Anime/Manga Fan

5 DO’s on How to Be a Happy Anime/Manga Fan

1. DO. . .befriend other fans.
Of course you can be happy by watching anime and reading manga all by yourself, but you’ll be so much happier if you have like-minded friends to whom you can freely discuss your passions with.  Find anime fans among your friends in real life.  If that fails, join anime fan sites or groups on social media such as Facebook, Twitter, Google+, etc.  Be an active member of forums or comment on anime websites.  If you want to take it to the next level, attend anime conventions and just directly immerse yourself into pure fandom.

gon and killua best friends laughing - hunter x hunter

2. DO. . .learn from anime.
Believe it or not, you CAN learn a lot by watching anime.  Just watching it in original Japanese already gives you the first step in learning the language.  Depending on the anime you watch, you gain knowledge and even wisdom.  Read “How Anime Makes You Smarter” for more information.

anime girl - studying

3. DO. . .maintain an open mind.
There is virtually an anime for everyone if one just take the time to look.  The genre spectrum of anime is very vast and diverse, so it’s better to maintain an open mind especially when dealing with other fellow anime fans who have. . .let’s say, more unusual tastes than normal.  Maintaining an open mind also broadens your horizons and exposes you to series you may end up loving but would’ve ignored if you continue to stick with what you normally liked.

4. DO. . .use anime/manga as a reward for a job well done.
Finally finished that essay?  Completed every task on your to-do list for the day?  Reward yourself with a night of anime/manga.  By using anime/manga as a reward, you make it into a positive influence in your life instead of something that causes you guilt.  Happy hormones will flood your brain not only “during” your anime watching or manga reading but also “before” and “after”.

puppy in a box - pedro martinez kimi no todoke

5. DO. . .blog about anime.
This is optional.  Not everyone has the patience, the dedication, nor the perseverance to maintain a blog.  But if you want to try becoming an aniblogger, go ahead.  It’s a great way to share your opinions about anime and manga, and also to connect with other anibloggers who provide I argue the most amazing and fulfilling community in the fandom.  If you do it the right way, you’ll learn a lot and enjoy happiness and a sense of fulfillment.  If you find creating a full-fledged blog scary, then maybe just stick to micro-blogs like Twitter, Tumblr, etc.

haruhi suzumiya-computer

5 DON’T’s on How to Be a Happy Anime/Manga Fan

6. DON’T. . .use anime/manga to procrastinate.
This is the complete opposite of #4.  It’s so easy to use anime to escape reality but if you always do this, you’re turning it into a negative influence in your life.  Yes, you feel happy when you watch anime but how do you feel afterwards?  You feel guilty, am I right?  If you continue using anime to procrastinate, it’ll ruin your life.  Read “10 Signs That Anime is Ruining Your Life” for more information.

shinichi frustrated - parasyte

7. DON’T. . .diss series you have never watched or read before.
Badmouthing series you have never watched before just because you see people doing the exact thing online makes you look like a ridiculous fool.  You have zero credibility to back the things you’re saying because you haven’t even watched the series yet.  Die-hard fans of the series will rip you to pieces.

8. DON’T. . .force your opinions and preferences on others.
Just because you like something doesn’t mean that everyone should like it, too.  Remember that everyone has their own tastes; respect them.  If you encounter someone who has a different opinion from yours, it’s not wise to aggressively tell them that they’re wrong and force your opinion as the correct one.  You believe you’re right, but they also believe that they’re right.  Forcing your opinions on others will only make them defensive.  At the end of the day, you fail to accomplish anything except for making an enemy.

girl pointing - rolling girls

9. DON’T. . .pick needless fights against other fans.
There need not blood shed because of anime.  Don’t be one of those bloodthirsty fans who attack others for the littlest things.  They’re mostly the ones who are giving the fandom a bad reputation. There are always diplomatic methods when dealing with opinions different from your own.  Besides, you’ll gain more respect and allies within the fandom when you intelligently argue your opinions rather than slug it out with nasty words.  Read “How to Piss Off Anime & Manga Fans” for more information.

light yagami angry - death note

10. DON’T. . .embarrass yourself by pretending to be a know-it-all.
Nobody wants to associate with a pompous, trying-too-hard wannabe expert spouting baseless facts like he’s the most intelligent person in the world.  Of course it’s not a sin to strive for expertise, but if you’re already acting like one when you’re not even good enough to be even called an amateur, then you’re just subjecting yourself to ridicule.  Learn some humility and modesty.  Always remember that there will always be someone who is more knowledgeable than you out there.

hiro gloating and getting hit with a book

There is no doubt that anime and manga give happiness to fans, but it’s up to you as a fan to make this happen.  If you use anime responsibly, it’ll make you happy, enriching your life.  If you misuse it, you’ll end up becoming a sorry failure of a person.  I hope that today’s lesson gave you some ideas on how to make yourself a happier fan.  That’s all for today, shokun!  I’ll be back again soon for another set of Fujinsei Kempo lessons.  Osu!

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  1. Great post! I think that the advice you give is great not just for anime fans but fans of any geekdom as they all can have similar pitfalls! Keep up the amazing posts!


    1. Thank you very much! I appreciate it. Indeed, that’s true. Someone also told me that it’s similar to sports fandom. It’s just that it’s better to focus on having a healthy passion for anime instead of making the mistake of immersing ourselves to the toxic side of the fandom. Anyway, thanks for dropping by and commenting. I appreciate it. Take care. Cheers!


  2. I like your advice. Especially the one about making friends.

    I do go on the My Anime List forum to comment and discuss anime and manga, and I think that makes the anime/manga experience even more fun.

    Too bad I don’t have any otaku friends in real life though.

    There used to be a manga/internet cafe in my old neighborhood. And if it had not closed down, I most probably would have made friends there. I used to sit down with stacks of manga and read for hours and sometimes total strangers would pass by my sofa and comment:

    “Oh you like that series too?”

    How nice.

    But unfortunately, the shop closed down… And there isn’t any new manga shops in Singapore.

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    1. Good for you. Indeed, discussing the series that you watched with other fans makes the experice even more fun and meaningful. Not to mention that it feels great to have that sense of community.
      There’s no one at all that you can discuss anime with in real life? They don’t have to be otaku. I guess, I’m quite fortunate that I have friends, though not on the same level of otaku-ness as me, watch enough anime to understand what I’m talking about. Not to mention that my dad was also a former anime fan, although the last anime he “really” watched was from the 90’s. I also have an uncle (my dad’s brother) who also still regularly watches anime.
      Oh! You live in Singapore? But aren’t you Filipino? Or am I mistaken?

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      1. Nobody around me watches anime or read manga. I am pretty much alone. As a security guard, I work with older people (in their 50s – 60s) and a lot of them only ever went to elementary school so they can’t have a proper discussion with me.

        I don’t have many friends in real life. Pretty much a hikikomori when I am not working. I do have a couple of people who come do martial arts training with me once a week, but they don’t watch anime or read manga.

        What makes things worse is that I get annoyed by shallow discussions about anime or manga. Sometimes I overhear conversations like:

        “Yeah, that guy was really strong.”

        “Isn’t he? He can shoot power from his hands. Super strong.”

        And I would rather die before I talk about anime with those people. I mean, if you read the anime/manga related posts on my blog, you will notice that I tend to think a lot about the topic. There are few posts but I think really hard before I write.

        So it kills me when I hear people spout shallow one-liners about anime shows.


    1. At least you’re brave enough to admit it. Then you can be better now and in the future. There are a lot of healthy anime communities online. Yes, lots are toxic but when you find the right one for you, the sense of community you get from other anime fans is incredible. Thanks for dropping by and commenting. I appreciate it. Cheers!

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  3. How I wish i could have friends who also love anime, but everytime i found one amd started to talk to them about anime they tend to avoid it and change the topic it seems they are not proud that they are anime fans. Maybe because parents here in us thought us that anime is for children only. Lol

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    1. That’s pretty common. But the great thing is that we now live in the age of the Internet. It may be an unregulated place, but if you’re careful enough, you’re able to find amazing fellow anime fans who share your passions. There are a lot of us here, so I hope that you find great friends from the anime fandom, even if only on the Internet. Thanks for dropping by and sharing your experience with me. I really appreciate it. Keep on watching anime, and don’t let this negative experience dampen your passion for it. Cheers!


  4. Great list and the do nots should be pasted in every online anime community especially YouTube comment section. Good to see some one talk about this. I was actually going to make a post about the worst fandoms and places online for certain series but have been reluctant because of some of the social media I link and communities I add my blog posts to beside my website because of backlash. I actually wanted not to post but certain incidents make me think people have forgotten manners and courtesy especially for YouTube. Like for giving a polite well reasoned opinion I shouldn’t have to get in all out three week comment battle with multiple people because their salty someone disagreed with their opinion. Phone and email blowing up because they want to keep going and going even when you’ve walked away from the conversation. The fandoms that are out of control and are always causing problems no matter where I go and that’s not me engaging but seeing other people arguing are. Fairy tail, Sao, fate universe, naruto, niseikoi, one punch man, and dragon ball z. Just the worst fandoms in my opinion whenever discuss soon of these series come up people start hurling insults and it’s all because people don’t follow the do boys you listed. You should also add another one. Throwing insults at creators of anime and manga. Their is a civil way to air frustration of a show or manga lets you down for whatever reason. I bring this up because I’ve noticed among fans for popular shows if they don’t like something they start to insult the creator online. I saw this happen the one year Oda got sick the creator of one piece and was on hiatus for like three weeks and some a holes started insulting him because their was no one piece chapter just making these horrible comments in the community. I won’t even say some of what I read but this was definetly prevalent on YouTube and Reddit. Then the whole thing with Sui ishida and Tokyo ghoul root A where I saw most of the fandom drag his name down only to come out and we learn it was all the studios fault and they didn’t use the drafts he wrote for the second season. Though this really came to head for me a few months ago when a lot of us learned what was going on with togashi. I don’t know if you’ve read hunter x hunter but in the communities there’s always been a running joke for the manga where people crack jokes about why togashi has taken so many hiatuses for that manga. I admit I was one of them and would complain cracking these smart Alec jokes on social media but after learning more about his situation. I feel bad I even said those jokes and brought to my attention especially regarding manga how demanding and the toll creating some of these series are on the creators especially if their popular same goes for some anime directors and writers. I think we tend to think these people are superhuman and create excellence or keep pushing out at an incredible pace all the time. I think we should be more respectful of the people that create the anime we watch
    and manga we read. It’s something i haven’t seen addressesed in any of the communities. Not saying we shouldn’t complain especially if it’s a good reason I just think we all anime fans should be more courteous to creators especially since I’ve realized those people see what we say they check on their fan bases. Sorry for this rant it just hit home reading this after my long comment battle over some nonsense that shouldn’t have been a big deal and where personal insults were made by people for the most part who have no respect for someone’s opinion. You would have thought someone insulted their mother how riled up they got.

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    1. Exactly! Well said. That’s why I left the Youtube community because I found it quite toxic, not all the time but there are just a lot of unmannered commenters filled with hate who are unregulated there. I still use YouTube a lot but I don’t actively comment anymore. Back when I was in my teens, I got involved in plenty of arguments that exposed me to the most foul-mouthed people in the Internet, those douchebags. And thank you for thinking that this post of mine should be posted in anime communities. I appreciate it. However, not everyone will agree with what I wrote in here. They argue that they have the Freedom & Right of Speech, but they’re using that to be as nasty as they can and hurt others. I totally understand your hesitation from writing posts that you know will garner you a lot of hate. We’re only humans, after all and would like to avoid pain if we could. I think that the anime community here in WordPress is really awesome & relatively safe for fans but of course even I am not prone to bashers. The good thing is that since it’s my own blog I can regulate and handle the comments and messages as I see fit. More often than not, I just ignore these unmannered people and not encourage them. So g’luck to you too.

      As for Oda-sensei, I’m a huge fan of him & ONE PIECE is my fave series. I get upset when ignorant fans bash him for taking breaks. Compared to to other mangaka, Oda-sensei is able to pump quality chapters consistently even to the detriment of his own health. Since I want to read ONE PIECE for a long time, I would want Oda-sensei to take care of his health even if that means waiting for along time. I’ve been waiting for Togashi-sensei to finish HxH for goodness knows how many years now so a month of hiatus by Oda-sensei is nothing. Besides, fans who are grumbling and bashing Oda-sensei for his break are those who are reading exclusively from scanlation websites. They have no right whatsoever to complain since they’re not even paying money to Oda-sensei for him to work hard for them.

      Anyway, don’t worry about your long rant since I’ve also written a long response. I like discussing this with fellow fans who get what I’m saying. Thanks very much for sharing your opinion with me. I really appreciate it. Cheers!


    1. Exactly! This happened to the premiere of the romance movie “Me Before You”. People are protesting that it’s portraying disability wrongly. I’m not knowledgeable about this issue, but the interesting thing is that the majority of the protesters haven’t even read the novel or even watched the film.

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  5. When I was a kid during the 90’s, my friends and talked about anime non-stop. Now, even with the internet, it feels weird for me up to this date that I have to be on-line just to talk about this stuff. I guess I just miss the food ‘ol days… I haven’t actually encountered know it alls which is a good thing. And yes, I use anime to stall since I’m lazy to begin with…

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    1. Parehas tayo. Noong bata pa ako, puro anime rin ang pinag-uusapan namin ng mga kaibigan at ng mga kaklase ko. Pati nga dad ko dati, nanunuod kasama ko. Pero ngayon, iilan nalang ang mga nakaka-usap ko ng personal tungkol sa anime. Mas marami ang online na kaibigan ko kagaya mo na fellow blogger ang nakaka-usap ko tungkol sa anime.
      Ahahahaha! Lahat naman siguro ng mga anime fans ay na-experience ang procrastination gamit ang anime. Anyway, thanks for dropping by. Ingat!


    1. Thanks a bunch! And same here. I feel like I’ve matured a lot since my kid/teenage years, but I still find myself guilty of the don’t’s somehow. That’s why I like taking breaks from anime now and again just to keep me grounded. And only anime fans like us know that the struggle is real when it comes to balancing anime with the rest of our lives.

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      1. definitely I find myself enjoying the medium to a point where sometimes i lose interest elsewhere. Not to say there are other good shows out there I just find it hard in this day and age of reality tv to find shows I can find myself as invested in as anime

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      2. Exactly! Besides I find a lot of reality TV shows today extremely ridiculous. Why the heck do they waste money on these crap? But of course there are some that I absolutely love. As for anime, I agree with you. There are times that I also lose interest in my other hobbies because I become too focused on anime. But my anime burn-outs manage to save me every time, so I’m forced to take a break whether I like it or not.


      3. I see. I know some evil temptresses who relentless try to tempt me to join the dark side and finally play otome games. I want to, but I just KNOW that I’ll get addicted and at this stage of my life, I can’t afford to get addicted to something like this. Perhaps someday. .. . . …
        Do you dislike playing otome games?


  6. Good points! On #3 and #8…we use a term at my day job about keeping an open mind and not offending others’ preferences, “Don’t ‘yuck’ my ‘yum'”. Just because it may not be my cup of tea, doesn’t mean it’s a bad thing. Also, I would just like to throw in there that I’ve learned so much about anime since starting our blog. And I’ve never really had a chance to talk to anyone about anime or manga before starting the blog, so I’m really glad I did no matter where my blogging adventure takes me!

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    1. Yay! Thanks. And that’s the first time I’ve heard that phrase. Sounds good but it makes sense. I hope that I get the chance to use that in a conversation someday. Ehehehe~ Ooooh . That’s great to hear. Same here. I used to be an active member on anime forums before—but I bet those forums are gone now—and I’m one of those first users of Crunchyroll when it was still starting out. Ahhhh, those were the days. It more like a Facebook for anime users back then, and now look at how big it is now. But I agree with you. I also learned a lot about anime since becoming an aniblogger. I hope that we continue to blog together for more years to come. Keep on watching anime & blogging. Cheers!

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      1. I think we did the trial period for crunchyroll but didn’t keep it because it doesn’t have many dubbed shows. I don’t mind sub at all but my partner in crime refuses to watch sub. Maybe I’ll give it a try in the future. Right now I still have a ton to watch on Funimation, Hulu, and Netflix. 😃

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      2. Oh well. Crunchyroll used to stream more anime then, I remember. There are others that had terrible subs, too. And there were no trial periods or subscription fees. But that was before they became a licensing giant. They’re all legal now, that’s for sure. And great for them. Ooooh, I see. I hear that Funimation has one of the best dubs in the industry. I don’t watch dubs myself, but that’s just my preference. I don’t know much about Hulu & Netflix since I don’t subscribe to them. Anyway, I think that as long as you enjoy the anime you’re watching, it doesn’t matter if it’s dubbed or subbed. Keep on enjoying. Cheers!

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  7. Another great set of advice. So far I followed rules 1,2 3, and 5. I try to be friends with other fans and make sure to be open minded. I am lacking on rule number 4. Every time I feel like I accomplish something, I don’t usually reward myself and watch anime. For number 10, I try to avoid making myself a fool. I know some anime titles but not 100%.

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    1. Thanks a bunch, Matt! Oh well, we all struggle about these things. After all, we’re all humans and more often than not, anime/manga can become addicting to many of us. I just want to make others realize that anime/manga need to be negative influences in our lives but positive ones that enrich us. I’m just glad that I have friends like you on the web to whom I can discuss anime freely with. So thank you very much. Keep on watching anime. . .in moderation, that is. 😉

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      1. Aw thanks! I think I remembered you said that. Anime is a neat treat but over doing it can be bad. To me it’s like a candy. It’s sweet for us fans, but too much of it can be bad. Anyways, I will continue to take notes on your advice. Cheers 🙂

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      2. Good analogy. Yes, anime is like candy or for me more like chocolates. I love chocolates but too much is bad. And thanks as always for dropping by and talking anime with me. It’s always a pleasure. Cheers!

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      3. I just that this was a good example :). I like sweets but I know they can be bad for you XD. Anyway, I enjoy talking about anime with you. Your conversations are really fun to get into ^^. Cheers!

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    1. Me too! We learn so much about anime. Ahahaha. We all have problems with #6 now and then. Anime really is the ultimate escapist entertainment for people like us. Well, people in this community have mostly open minds and I’m very thankful for that.

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    1. Aaaaaaw! I knew it! That puppy was going to steal the show, and I’m RIGHT! I should’ve put him at the end of the post, but then perhaps it’ll still have the same effect. -____-

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      1. ,(´◕ω◕`)+✿. Puppy!!
        (๑•д •)Huh-?
        (゚д゚) Uh, yeah. I mean no! No, I totally wasn’t distracted!
        (¬‿¬) Totally smooth. I pulled that off.
        °˖✧◝(⁰▿⁰)◜✧˖° Here, puppy puppy…

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  8. I hate 7 and 8 so much, mostly because it happens so freakin’ often!! Grr, I’m mad just thinking about it.

    One of the biggest troubles I find as an anime fan is the whole seasonal viewer vs the anime for fun viewer. Seasonal is a good way to watch many shows in a year, but you lose that specialness you get when binging, and you have to share with other shows 😦 Not only that, but more casual fans will feel left behind as seasonals sometimes act superior….It’s a mixed bag, but this I think affects finding friends since everyone’s anime pallet is different.

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    1. I know, right? #7 & #8 people litter the online fandom. Hmmmmm. Good point. I haven’t really thought of it that way, but it makes sense. I’m not a seasonal viewer, since I rarely watch any airing anime. That’s why I’m not really interested in writing about that topic. But I get what you mean when I think about it now. Thanks for sharing that. Cheers!

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  9. Simple, effective rules for living a healthy, happy otaku life; nice work Arria.
    I feel like there’s also a point to be made here about how to interact with otaku strangers; I’m sure we’ve all encountered those people at anime cons who try to engage conversation but just end up making you feel uncomfortable… But perhaps that’s a topic for another day… Where’s my blog ideas notebook, this might end up in my cosplay etiquette post…

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    1. Thanks a lot, Stryke! Well, I didn’t elaborate about conventions here because it’s really not my forte. But I’m glad it inspired you to (maybe) write a post about it. I hope that you do write it. I’ll be looking forward to read it. Thanks for dropping by. Cheers!


    1. Exactly. Anime and manga are more fun when shared with friends. We notice stuff that we haven’t noticed in a show before because of the different perspectives in watching anime. Thanks for dropping by. Keep on watching anime. Cheers!

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      1. I know, right? It’s really cool to discuss anime and have fun with the community we have here. That’s what I enjoy the most as an aniblogger. Well, yes, but that’s because all of us have different personalities. We can’t expect everybody to agree with each other’s opinions. And others just don’t have the proper etiquette when dealing with other fans, so things start to get nasty from there, unfortunately. Anyway, thanks a lot for dropping by. Keep on watching anime. Cheers!

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    1. Ahahaha! I have a feeling you’d say that. I did mention going to a convention on #1. As for sleeping in your car, well, it may work on some people. . . .but not for people like me, unfortunately. -___-


    1. I know, right? The struggle is real. Anime is just the perfect escapist entertainment for fans like us. But then if we let it take over our lives completely without any semblance of control, then we’re the ones who’re going to suffer in the end. Thanks for dropping by. Keep on watching anime. . .in moderation. . . 😉

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